Tuesday, September 22, 2015

Changes

Public Service Announcment: Our family is becoming cheap, frugal home bodies. 
As many of you know, jordan has been working long hours and we don't see him much. We have a two year plan to get rid of all credit card and loan debt. With that said, starting in October we are cutting our spending tremendously. What this means is, less going places, eating out, and spending less on gifts. Please know that we are putting a $20 limit on gifts for others. If you wish to spend that same amount or less on my kids, I am fine with that. I'm also cutting back my driving and only going to one fun place a month aside from driving for errands which I already try to consolidate. 
I don't want jordan to have to work like this forever, so every extra penny is going to help us reach our goal. It's only for two years. You could say, we are going on a money mission. Lol We are also going to be combining our kids birthday parties. This way I only have to spend money on the food, location, favors, etc, once. 
We've already cut up all credit cards, switched to basic phones to save on our phone bill, and only have Netflix. No cable or other TV services. We got rid of all monthly member ships, and are only keeping dance for bella and karate for tristan. I also make a weekly gas and shopping budget and make my menu fit into that. 
Now You might be asking what Jor and I get to do for fun? 
Well we are trying to make it a point to go on a date once a week, and have it be a mostly free activity and can then go out to eat and only spend $20. Saturday's are our days to do this, or get stuff done, or see friends. Sunday's will be family day and church. Trying to spend that time at home, so the kids can see jordan. 
I'm doing Bella's preschool at home so I don't have to pay for that, and I am only doing facebook Usborne parties so I'm not spending extra money on that. 
It's amazing all these things we can cut out so we can live simply, and reach our goals. It's hard, but will be worh it. Like Dave Ramsey says, "live like no one else, so you can live like no one else" basically, be cheap till out of debt, so you can have the freedoms later. 
I know if Jor and I both work hard, stick to the budget and have faith in the Lord, we can accomplish our goals. Debt really is bondage, and I feel a slave to a master when paying off debts. I don't want to feel that way. I want to pay cash for everything, have a large savings for emergencies, and spend smart. Thus I will be able to help those in need, help my children, have money for retirement and be ready for whatever finance trial comes our way. 
So please bare with us as we make finacial family changes for the better. 
(I'm even debating selling the acura, but it is nice to have a car that though it's a 2008, doesn't need any major work done to it, aside from a slow leaking tire, and is reliable incase the van ever crapped out. Which by the way is running suburb with all the work Jor has done to it. It's nice having a paid off vehicle, and a sexy mechanic who works on it.😉)

Our awesome basic touch phones. I miss my iPhone, but am making due. 
Had to put jewel stickers on my phone to tell it apart from Jordan's. They don't make many cases for it. 

Friday, September 11, 2015

My FB post

I have gotten a lot of wonderful feed back from so many about a recent article I posted on facebook that I felt I related to in some ways. 
So I should clarify a bit. I know the Lord loves me. I, in this worldly state, feel like I'm trying so hard at so many things and not succeeding. Things that do need to be done, And I am struggling to get it together. No I don't feel like leaving the church, but I feel inactive since I struggle to make it to sacrament. I feel I need to have well behaved children at all times, clean house, be in shape, look good ( both to my definition), be a great wife, be a happy church member. This isn't real. I know trials are good and help us grow. But honesty I need to put the lord and my family first. But doing so has been a struggle lately. I'm stuck on glue. Even ask my husband, my energy has lacked. I wonder if I do have some hormone imbalance that is aiding in how I feel. 
Now please know, jordan is wonderful, and my faith is wonderful. I in no way am saying jordan, or the Mormon doctrine  is why I feel this way. It is because I haven't been putting the Lord first that this has been this way. I know this. Just knowing and doing, are two different things. Doing takes time, practice, routine. 
Also, no I don't have cause to meet with the bishop either, except to say, hey, I might need help in becoming a better member and child of God. 
I thank everyone for their kind words. For letting me know, I a, not alone. I don't like to make things a big deal, or draw attention to myself for drama sake. But I kinda did. In doing so, it did let me know I really have great friends everywhere willing to help. And that is one beautiful lesson to learn. 
Thank you 

Wednesday, September 2, 2015

Tiny dancer and karate man

Today we had a busy day. We needed to clean house, get things ready for school starting, and we had ballet, karate, and Tristan's open house at school. 

Starting with Bella's ballet, we actually made it early. Bella dis so well in her class. She followed the teacher and did the right moves. So cute and adorable. Plus today I found one of my old dance bags and cleaned it out for her. She loved it. 
She looks like a pro!

Then we had karate. They actually overlap each other so I am running from one to other. Only getting to watch about 10 mins each in broken parts. 
Tristan did awesome and earned a red stripe on his belt. He needs 1 red stripe and 4 black stripes to graduate to the next level. His teacher thinks he will reach this in October. The down fall, is every graduation has a $40 fee. So I'm wondering, how many graduations in a year does he have? Karate is so expensive! And we aren't even competing. It's as expensive as hockey. Bella's dance class with costume is a drop in the bucket compared to the cost of karate. 
Non the less, I am super proud of tristan and think this is a great fit for him. 
Lastly we made it to the open house. Tristan's teacher is Mrs. Stoltz. She has been teaching at Twin Lakes for 3 years. She is a former Vikings Cheerleader, and seems very much willing to help tristan succed. She also loves that I can provide Usborne Books. 
She did so,etching really cool, she had special markers that the parents could use to write a note on the kids desks for the first day of school. I should have snapped a pic of what I wrote. I will on the first day. Tristan didn't want his picture taken since his face is a little torn up from his bike accident. So I could only get one, and no smile. 
The poor kid is so self conscious and gets embarrassed easily. Surprised for how young he is. But that's him. Hope this looks a lot better by next Tuesday so he isn't affriad to make friends. 


Plexus day one and other exciting news

So I started plexus yesterday. Started at 176lbs. Stomach pains and headaches once a week. Hoping this will help me have a healthier gut. And in turn, help me lose weight. 

Jozette also learned how to crawl today
And Tristan decided to get in a fight with the pavement. 
Now he has liquid stitches, and a tough look for meeting his teacher tonight. 


Tuesday, September 1, 2015

Life changers

So a lot has happened recently. I stopped my UBAM business. I'm finishing out commitments and then will do some FB parties if people want. I'm not actively seeking out host. Also we are getting rid of our smart phones on the 19th. Jordan and I don't want to be apart of the zombie cell phone apocalypse. We also want to save money on our phone bill. In addition we have quit the YMCA because I didn't use it like I thought I would. Back to trying to work out at home. This too will save us money. 
Jordan is working so hard, and long hours. Four 12 hour shifts and an eight hour shift every week. Needless to say, it's hard on him, me and the kids. It's especially hard on Tristan. 
We thought that when we moved into our own house, and tristan had his own room, that he would be happier. He's not. We are struggling, and he is struggling with all the change. I hope once school starts and karate, he will do better with the schedule, and use the karate as a healthy outlet for frustration. 
I've been so stressed trying to manage the house, bills, kids, work and church, that something had to give. My business. 
I loved UBAM. I was doing well with UBAM. Hardest decision that I fought for months. But I know it's right. Im not super woman who can handle it all. But honestly, the kids and house cleaning are my work. Because I am home with the kids, I have to clean that kitchen 5 times a day. After every meal and snack. If I worked and kids went to daycare, wouldnt have to clean as much. The kids wouldn't be home to mess it up. I always wanted to be a SAHM. So I'm not complaining that I have to clean it 5 times a day. I'm just saying; taking care of the kids, the house (yes the kids help, but they are 6 and 3), the bills, the errands and myself, that's a lot of work. My kids are young once and I want to enjoy it. Especially now when they need me most. I don't want to be on the phone and computer all the time working. I want to clean house and play with them. Plus I'm homeschooling bella this year. So if it can't be done after they are in bed, forget it. My kids and husband are in need of all of me right now. Jordan also makes enough with the long hours to get us out of debt in two years. I want the weekends for us, for him to relax. So if I work on the house, he can. 

Also I've been not doing to well in the health department. I get a migraine at least evey otherday. Some are not so bad, and some debilitate me. I also get a bad stomach flare up, that almost makes me pass out once a week. So in efforts to control that, I'm trying to work out more, eat better and am starting Plexus. I'm starting that today. It's supposed to help clean out your gut, give you energy and help you loose weight. It's suppose to balance my cholesterol, blood sugars, and lipids. It's also supposed to help tristan with his behaviors and jordan have more energy. If you want more info on this too, check out this website: www.plexusslim.com/ttiffani
I am not actively selling it, but like my UBAM site, it's there if you want it. 

I am hoping for great change this coming month. I hope the schedule of getting up at 8am for school, helps me get up and work out and do better at getting up for church. We have been terrible lately. I know I need to put God first and everything will fall into place. I feel I've been stuck on glue. I'm trying to do all these things for the better, but yet am not getting anywhere. I know we will. Change is hard and slow. 
I am grateful for my loving husband and family that helps us. I have enjoyed the summer with tristan and am sad he's starting school. There's still so much I wanted to do with him, but not having a car this last month made it really hard. 
I'm glad the car will be done tomorrow, and I get some freedom back. 
Things are going to get better around here. Jor and I will reach our goals (like getting out of credit debt in two years), and the kids will survive. We can do this, we might just need the Lords help. 
Enough of my ramblings ( which this was, no organization of thought), and enjoy some recent pictures. 
I didn't post these, and now I will be taking 9 month photos. 
Hmmm.... How to take over the world? 
The new game changer. I hope it works. 

And how I feel, everyday. Lol