Wednesday, March 21, 2012

family

A couple of weekends a ago, we had family pictures taken by Ashley Ingebrigtson. She was wonderful and has amazing talent! She is a good friend of Jordan's and a new friend of mine. I love all the pictures she has taken.
I spent time coordinating outfits, and this is the reason no one got a Christmas card. I was waiting till Annabella was born so we could have the whole family, or just make an announcement of her.
I just want to share  how blessed I have felt lately. I have a loving husband who isn't afraid to show it, and beautiful children that the Lord has blessed me with. I thank the Lord everyday for my family and blessing our lives. I am so thankful that Jordan and I were married and sealed in the Nauvoo Temple for time and all ETERNITY. Jordan is my best friend and i want to be with him forever. It gives me the motivation to always try and make our marriage stronger, and to make it a top priority. My next priority is my children. They truly are children of God, and came from heaven. It makes me want to be the best parent since the Lord has trusted me with His children. I  am so grateful that they are sealed to me and will always be my children, even after this life. I am grateful to know that family ties don't end after this life, that they can continue for eternity.


Wednesday, March 7, 2012

Trip to Bronners

Jor and I aglow by Bronners. Tristan loved being here and was amazed by all the lights, orniments, and snowflakes. This is a christmas store on steriods! seriously, anything christmas you can think of is here. We got Annabella a stocking with her name on it to match Tristans.
We then went to the Bavarin Inn and enjoyed the most fabouls chicken dinner. It was filled with fried chicken, mashed potatoes, cranberry relish, and of course my fave stuffing and buttered noodles. Tristan then enjoyed the little shops down stairs where he could play at the toy shop with lots of trucks and Thomas sets. I enjoy a marzipan chocolate bar from the candy! We had such a wonderful time in MI, it was hard to come home.
It will be fun to take Annabella here one day since she was in my tummy and not able to take in the wonder. I would love to stay as a family at the Bavarin Inn and enjoy the 3 pools, mini golf, and arcade.

Halloween

Well yes this is late, but hey now I have the time.
Here is Tristan's Halloween pictures.
He was a race car driver and we went to my mom's to go trick-or-treating because there are more houses closer together. Tristan wasn't so sure about it at first, but then got the hang of it. Some people he yelled "I don't want to talk to you!" and others he liked and said thank you and wanted to talk to them. There is no consistency to whom he chooses to yell at or be nice too, so I don't know why he acts the way he does other than he is 2. He had a blast, and even though it was cold he loved it!


Monday, March 5, 2012

Birth Story, warning: some detail and long

My VBAC Hypnobirthing Success Story


By Tiffanie Thibodeau

The event of Annabella’s birth truly was a miracle brought to me by Heavenly Father. In the beginning we were so worried that she was going to be born early. We had 3 trips to Labor and Delivery to be monitored and receive Trubutaline shots to prevent me from dilating and going into further labor.

When I made it to 36 weeks that was the first miracle as she would be able to survive without many complications. The next miracle was making it to 38 weeks and considered full term. At this point I had scheduled a C-section because I was told new information that I had a condition call PCD, which means that my pelvis was too small to fit a baby through. Thus Tristan having been born by C-section after I had dilated to a 10 and was pushing. My C-section was scheduled for the 8th of January when I would have been 39 weeks, hoping to deliver me before I went into labor myself. I thought about it, and it just didn’t feel right. I prayed and read my scriptures trying to be sure that I was making the right choice. I received a blessing from Jordan and it mentioned that Annabella would be born healthy, and that we would need patience and love. It didn’t really say one way or the other what was right. So after more research and the help from talking too many of my friends, I decided to cancel my C-section. After I made the choice, it felt right. I felt that I needed to try and deliver naturally because I felt robbed of that opportunity with Tristan.

With Tristan I was induced, mostly because my mother was in town and she wanted to be there for the birth. So against what my doctors recommended I was induced on my due date. I wasn’t dilated or effaced and Tristan wasn’t even in my pelvis yet, and yet they still induced me. I was given cervidal, potocin, had my water broken and received an epidural. I just expected labor to be painful and that I would receive the epidural to relive that pain. I had back labor with Tristan because they said he was posterior (face up) instead of being face down. Thus partly why he ended up wedged in my pelvis. Because I had the Epidural I couldn’t feel when to push, and had to wait for the nurses to tell me when. I didn’t feel any natural urge that he was ready to come out. Everything I did with my Labor with Tristan was wrong. Even after taking the pregnancy class I knew nothing. This is why I decided to look into Hypnobirthing.

Hypnobirthing is a relaxed self hypnosis that aids your body in doing what it was designed to do and not fight or fear labor and birth. It takes practice but really helps you relax and enjoy the natural process of birth. It also greatly involves your spouse in helping you remain relaxed in the labor process. I really liked how it embraces women’s bodies and encourages you to allow them to work and do as God had created them.

My doctor called me to discuss my operative report with me on Tristan and what they knew about Annabella’s size to be sure I wanted to cancel my C-section. I am very glad she called because I was able to discuss what happened with Tristan and found out that they (Oakdale ob) would have never induced me without being closer to showing signs of going into labor. She also said that because I hadn’t gone into labor on my own, could have been a good reason why the natural hormone that relaxes and allows the pelvis to spread and open didn’t happen. She did warn me that Annabella was measuring bigger then Tristan was at birth and that my Labor only had a 10% chance of being successful. I also told her I didn’t want an epidural, and asked if that would help my delivery be more successful , and she agreed. So I told her I would rather try and have it end in C-section then to not have tried at all. She was willing to support me.





Labor and Delivery of a Miracle

On January 14th, 1 day before my due date I decided that I would try castor oil to start my labor. At my last appointment I was dilated to a 3, 70% effaced and she was at 0 station. I also knew that I had lost my mucus plug and my discharge had changed. I also was having Braxton hicks. I just knew that she was going to come soon, but also wanted to be sure she came before 41 weeks when they would have to do a C-section. I started the castor oil around 1pm and nothing happened. I thought it was supposed to be soon after I took it, come to find out that it can take up to 6 hours. So I decided to help move things along by taking Tristan to my moms and jor and I would go eat P.F. Changs. I like their spicy chicken and it does have a kick. While on the way to my mom’s I started having stronger contractions. But they weren’t strong enough to do much. So we went to dinner. I told the Lady at the restaurant that I was in labor and to bring the food quickly. By time we left I was starting to feel more contractions, so we walked around Wal-Mart to keep them coming. We asked the Crofts if we could stay the night at their place and use their tub. They agreed and were just waiting for us to get there. We stopped at my mom’s to drop off wipes before the Crofts and that is when the Labor really started. I was running to the bathroom every 4 minutes with really bad contractions. I wasn’t even sure I could make it to the car. When they stopped for 2 minutes I told Jor we needed to leave for the Hospital now or I wasn’t going to make it. So mom called the Crofts and told them we wouldn’t be coming and we said goodbye to Tristan. I was so excited to finally be going to the hospital, laboring on my own at full term.

We arrived at the Hospital at 12:00am January 15th, Annabella’s due date. They checked me and I was 4cm dilated and 80% effaced, 0 station. They decided to admit me. Before we moved rooms Jordan gave me a blessing. The blessing said that the Lord loved me, knew my desires and that I would be able to witness the miracle of child birth.

My contractions kept coming, though not very strong. We were able to get settled, turned on the hypnobirthing CD and tried to get some sleep. Jordan feel asleep rather fast because he had worked late Friday night and then we were up early on Saturday. Because of my contractions I felt relaxed but not sleepy. When I was finally able to get some sleep my contraction weren’t strong anymore and were stopping. Oh no I thought, I am going to be sent home. They did a check at 6am and I had made it to 5 cm. So the doctor suggested that we try oxytocin or breaking my water. Because I wanted my body to Labor naturally and not have any drugs Jor and I decided to try natural ways of bringing on labor. After the natural ways weren’t working we decided that the drip would be better then breaking my water.

They started the IV drip and my contractions came back. Then at 10am after 2 more hours of sleep the contractions stopped again. Now they really were deciding between sending me home or breaking my water. Jor and I really didn’t want my water broken, but when the doctor came in and pointed out that because of this being a VBAC and there is the risk of uterine rupture, she felt better if I stayed, and that by breaking my water, it would make the contractions stronger. Jor and I decided that would be the best thing to do. So we broke my water. The contractions were stronger but not unbearable. Jordan was a great help at rubbing my back, helping me on the birth ball and doing whatever I needed. It was so nice to just have him in the room.

My nurse asked me if I wanted to get in the tub, I told her I would wait a little because I wanted that to be my last resort to help with the pain. I continued to relax and breathe through the contractions. I could feel them but they weren’t unbearable. At 12:30pm they checked me and I was at 6 cm. I decided now would be a good time to try the tub. At 12:45p I felt a lot of pelvic pressure and though I was still relaxed I could really feel pain. I requested the Fetinal; an IV drug that only last 2 hours and just takes off the edge. I kind of felt like a failure using drugs but knew this was better than an epidural and would not harm the baby. My contractions were so close and strong I could barely move. I was dried off and made it to the bed. My nurse had gone to lunch, so another nurse came in and administered the drug on a contraction. My next contraction my body wanted to push. Here I am, lying in bed and thinking, oh no I am going to poop myself in front of Jordan. I felt so much pressure on my bottom and pelvis that I couldn’t move to get back to the bathroom. My nurse came back and saw my body pushing and checked me. It was now 1pm and I was dilated to 10 and +3 station. So the nurse paged the Doctor and told her I was getting ready to deliver and to not rush but come soon. Then the next push I was crowning and she told the doctor to hurry and get here. I could feel every contraction and just knew when my body wanted me to push. The pain med never had time to kick in. I waited for the urge and pushed. I kept trying to breathe through the pain and pressure and remain calm. The nurse would tell me to hold my push because she was right there. Jor was very encouraging and telling me that I was doing a good job. I never opened my eyes, just remained calm and Jordan would answer the nurse’s questions. I remember them asking if I wanted to feel her head coming out, and I said no, just get her out. At 1:23pm Annabella Mayleigh was born. It felt so good to push her out and all the pressure and pain was gone.

Meeting Annabella

They placed her on to my chest and we waited to cut the cord until it stopped pulsating so that Annabella could get all of the good cord blood. Jordan cut the cord and then the placenta was delivered and they had to stitch my perineum because I had a 3rd degree tear from being on my back, but I didn’t want to move. While they did all this I was able to finally see what my baby looked like and hold her. At first I was in a little bit of shock. I finally have my baby girl that I thought I wouldn’t have in years. It was a nice moment to have Jordan, me and Annabella right after she was born, straight from heaven. What a wonderful gift from God. She weighed 8lbs 9oz, 20.5 inches long, she was bigger than Tristan and I had a successful VBAC. She made it through my pelvis with no problem. She was so alert and was able to start breast feeding. Something Tristan wasn’t able to do because of all the drugs I was given.



After birth

After I was stitched and Annabella was weighed and wiped off, Jordan took care of Annabella and I just lay in bed for about 15 minutes. I gave myself time to soak in everything that just happened, and relax before cleaning up. It was great to hear when I asked if they just wheel me in this bed to recovery, and the nurse said, “No girl you either get the wheel chair or walk, you had a vaginal birth.” I felt great walking down to my recovery room, knowing what great thing I accomplished. I felt proud of myself, and like I beat the odds.




baby"s first dress! on loan from Quinn.